Planning a funeral hardly ever feels like a comfortable situation. And the world of funeral etiquette can feel complex, especially as it's often unique to each situation. Although your funeral director can offer a lot of guidance, it may help to understand funeral etiquette in advance. It's important to remember that funeral etiquette isn't a concept that should add to your pressure. Instead, it should help a challenging day feel comforting.
You may feel as though the dress code for the funeral should remain simple: wearing black. It's a traditional colour that a lot of attendees expect to wear. However, some people enjoy exploring alternatives so that they can feel more as though the funeral is celebrating their loved one's life. For example, you may specifically state that you don't want the attendees to wear black or you might ask that they try to wear your loved one's favourite colour. Don't hesitate to make your thoughts on the dress code known for the day; it can bring a lot of warmth to the proceedings.
Much like wearing black, the use of flowers at funerals can feel incredibly comforting. However, many people also feel as though flowers are personal, but don't want to specify a particular type. You may feel as though, as the person who knew your loved one best, you want to be in control of the flowers. One way to do this is to state that you politely request that nobody else brings flowers, but that you would prefer cards or charity donations instead.
Most people carry phones with them and many wear watches that receive notifications. Naturally, you'll feel as though the funeral is a sacrosanct occasion where disturbances are not allowed. You may also feel as though you would like to avoid photos in certain places. Don't be afraid to ask that attendees turn all notifications off. You may also want to state that you're comfortable with photos at the wake, but that you would rather they were kept away from social media.
Books of Condolence
Books of condolence aren't always necessary. After some time has passed, however, you may feel as though having one allows you to reflect on happy memories. With that in mind, you can suggest to your guests that they sign with one fond memory of the person you have lost. Having such a personal touch can help your emotions later.
For more information, contact a funeral director near you.